Meet OURS.

OURS is a modern, virtual experience that helps couples build a strong foundation for forever. We provide expert guidance and tools to talk about the big stuff like communication, finances, values, and more.
Depending on what you're looking for, there are 2 different ways for you to begin OURS:
  • Trial OURS
    1 live, virtual session with an expert
    1 self-guided session with our Loveware

    Great for: finding out if OURS is right for you, surprising your partner with a new experience, or testing out what investing in your relationship feels like.

    $50, 1 week (if you choose to continue, you'll pay an additional $450 to access 3 more self-guided sessions and 1 more live session)
  • Full experience
    2 live, virtual sessions with an expert
    4 self-guided sessions with our Loveware

    Great for: couples who are ready to go all in on forever.

    $400, 4 weeks (by purchasing the entire OURS experience up front, you'll save $100)
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How it works

Begin with a Welcome Survey:
You and your partner will fill out separate surveys about your relationship and goals. It will take around 20 minutes to complete. You can write as much or as little as you'd like, but your Guide would love to know as much about you as they can!

Schedule your welcome session:
We usually have sessions available Monday through Saturday, from 9 A.M ET until 9 P.M ET. You can typically schedule your welcome session within 5 days of signing up.

Meet your Guide:
You'll join a Zoom with them where your Guide will, well, guide you through a series of questions that help them to understand what type of roadmap you’ll need to take throughout the OURS experience. They’ll ask you questions about how you met, what your strengths are, and where you think you need extra support. At the end of the session, they’ll share with you what they believe your roadmap of sessions should be. They choose these specifically based on you and your partner’s needs. This session will last for 45 minutes.

Start your content sessions:
You’ll have access to one session at a time. These sessions might be on topics like finances, parenting, family, boundary setting, or dealing with differences, to name a few. We recommend doing a session a week. They tend to take about an hour.

Wrap-up with your Guide:
Once you've completed your content sessions, you’ll meet with your Guide so they can provide you with feedback, and offer you support as you prepare for the next steps in your relationship.

Your OURS sessions

Every couple is different and so is your experience with OURS. Based on our proprietary approach and the insight of your Guide, we'll design a series of sessions on Loveware that may include topics like:
  • Communication
  • Finances
  • Intimacy
  • Household Roles and Responsibilities
  • Parenting and Family Planning
  • Values and the Future
  • Speaking and Listening
  • Navigating Our Differences
Want even more detail? Click here for a detailed review from a journalist at the New York Times and here for a step-by-step breakdown by one of our founders.
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Top FAQs

A life changing experience, including:

Two ~45 minute private sessions with a Guide.

Four 60 minute guided sessions via our Loveware.

A personalized roadmap catered to your relationship and goals.

Nearly unlimited questions, surprises, and more throughout the experience.

You should anticipate completing the entire experience in 4 weeks. However, this doesn't mean that you need to sign up immediately after purchasing - you can book your first session up to 30 days in the future, so there’s no rush.

Truthfully, we know there’s never a right or wrong time to start something new. We also know that your relationship matters and it’s important to prioritize it, especially during the times when life gets in the way. That’s why it is important for us to personally tailor the experience to your relationship, your goals, and your busy schedule.

No problem - nearly half of our couples aren’t engaged (they're either dating or already married). OURS is for relationships of all kinds – new connections, serious relationships, recently engaged, the married crowd and everything in between. As long as you're looking to proactively invest in your relationship, you’ll fit right in.

You can check out Hannah Seligson's account of her OURS experience in the New York Times here.

We work with the best relationship experts we know and our Guides are no exception. They’ve all been especially handpicked for their compassion, enthusiasm, and trailblazing relationship approach.

Each Guide has, at the very least, a Master's degree in some form of Therapy, Mental Health, or Counseling (e.g., a Master's of Marriage and Family Therapy, a Master's of Psychology, etc.). Highly qualified and personally vetted, think of them as your personal cheerleader who will be there for you, at every step of your journey to answer your questions, give advice, and integrate your learnings. They uniquely tailor your experience to ensure you’re getting the most out of what you’re looking for.

The OURS program is not couples therapy. The OURS program is a psycho-educational experience that will support you to connect with your partner, understand and build skills, and create plans for the future. Whereas, couples therapy is typically longer term and a more diagnostic experience that focuses on healing past traumas (inside and outside of the relationship) and issues to change destructive, often unconscious habits, overcoming betrayals and deep pain within the relationship and navigating conflict resulting from painful feelings. Couples therapy might also be used in conjunction to individual therapy for the treatment of a mental health diagnosis or concern.

While we aren't offering couples therapy at the moment, we do believe in it very strongly!

Of course. See here for more on gifting and here for more on adding to your registry.

You'll complete a welcome survey (about 10 minutes) first, meet with your Guide live (~45 minutes), complete your 4 Loveware sessions (this is dependent on you; however, sessions tend to be completed in about an hour each), and meet with your Guide again (~30 minutes) for a total of about 6 hours, give or take.

3 steps...

Get started. Answer a few confidential questions to see if you’re a good fit for the premarital counseling program. Most OURS couples are proactive, looking for insight into their relationship, and excited to talk about something new.

Meet your Guide. If you’re a good match, we’ll reach out and introduce you to your Guide, a world-class expert who will be the center of your OURS journey. They will schedule a fun exploratory call to hear about where you’ve been as a couple and what you want in your relationship. Then your Guide will take what they've learned to map out how we can help you get there.

Start the OURS experience. The adventure begins. Through our research-backed proprietary program, we build a personalized experience for you and your partner to explore the big stuff together. You’ll use our special, relationship-building ‘loveware’ tech to navigate guided exercises, bespoke discussion prompts, and so much more.

You can take our program at any time (we've even had people join after the wedding!) However, if you're having a big wedding, you might not want to do the program too close to the date — you'll have a lot to do and we encourage you to find time you can really focus on the program.

Absolutely. See an overview of your OURS experience here.

When your Guide meets with you, they will learn more about you and your partner to understand your relationship and relationship needs. After meeting, they will come up with a roadmap of sessions designed to help you discuss the topics you and your partner need to discuss the most. Each session includes:

  1. Conversation prompts
  2. Activities - like drawing, writing, and even a scavenger hunt or two
  3. Psychoeducation - this means that you'll learn alot!
  4. Planning exercises

Because the sessions are dependent on the couple, every roadmap is different, however you and your partner might end up talking about:

  1. Sex
  2. Your Family
  3. Finances
  4. Parenting
  5. Personal and Relationship Goals
  6. Boundaries
  7. Your relationship agreements
  8. Good Communication
  9. Compromise
  10. Household Tasks
  11. Dreams
  12. Values
  13. Spirituality

...and so much more!

You’re going to have to trust us on this one. Behind the scenes, we’re working our magic to match you to the right Guide based on your requirements, our in-house data, and good old-fashioned intuition! But if you have any non-negotiables (e.g., experience with long-distance couples, a particular ethnic background) then we’ll make it happen.

That's a weird question. And we love weird questions. See here.

Unfortunately, we are unable to take insurance at this time.

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