Modern premarital counseling

Virtual premarital counseling to talk about the big stuff like communications, finances, values, etc. 4 weeks with an expert, 6 sessions, get started for $100.

Scientifically proven to not be scary.

Can we keep doing this forever? We loved the activities, the structure, and the conversations that kept flowing even after a session ended.

-Sophie and Patrick

4 weeks. 3 steps.
2 brains. 1 future.

Relationships are one of the best predictors of happiness and well-being. OURS is modern premarital counseling - guided by experts - for couples who want to fall in love with their partner over and over again, at every stage of their life together.
2 live, virtual sessions with an expert.
4 self-guided sessions with our Loveware.
A personalized roadmap of topics.
Fun surprises and meaningful moments.
All virtual.
Get started for $100.


Sometimes when two people love each other, they keep their clothes on and go to premarital counseling.

“The best part was that it was actually fun. Any couple regardless of what stage in their relationship could and would benefit from this. It’s all online, it’s accessible and we loved it and will remember it forever. I recommend it to everyone and couldn't be happier about our experience.”

- Rory and Anna

“Nora created such a safe, playful, and comfortable space for us to explore some otherwise sensitive conversations. After 4 years together, I was surprised how each session we were having a conversation that we hadn't approached before. You've created a true fan!”

- Dennis and Gigi

"We thoroughly enjoyed our time and journey led by our lovely guide Shade! Every session was personalized for us and Shade provided a safe space for us to be vulnerable and intimate so that we could be enlightened by our personal values and our shared vision for our future. OURS was incredible and has continued to contribute to our relationship months after!"

- Sherida and Kristen

"Ok so we just did our first session and LOVED it. We really leaned into the hour - ordered takeout, lit some candles, and got cozy. The session was so impactful in helping us learn about ourselves and thus understand each other better."

- Becca and Leah

"This gave us the language to talk about the things we needed to talk about. I think all couples would benefit from OURS. Even my grandparents and parents who've been together for decades would get a better understanding of each other and space for their relationship."

- Jocelyn and Jonpaul

"There's so many relationship resources out there but with OURS I felt really secure knowing there were certified licensed professionals - shout out to Liz - who were providing very customized support that was also backed by so much research and experience. It really felt like we had a strong and supportive confidant."

- Tem and Lam

A personalized roadmap

Every couple is different and so is your personalized experience with OURS. Based on our propiertary approach and the insight of your Guide, we'll design a roadmap for you that may include topics like:
  • Communications
  • Finances
  • Intimacy
  • Household Roles
  • Parenting and Family Planning
  • Values and the Future

Meet your Guides.

Liz Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT

Co-founder, Head of Relationship Health; ask me about the book I wrote

Nora Nova, M.Ed.

Lead Guide and premarital counselor: ask me about the languages I speak

Robin Dunn Bryant, MSW

Guide and relationship scientist; ask me about my obsession with dogs

Harmony Hampton, MSW

Guide and premarital counselor; ask me about my military service

Janay Holland, MFT

Guide and premarital counselor; ask me about my TikTok video of the week

Wande Ogunkoya, MSW

Guide and premarital counselor; ask me how long it took to finish today's Wordle

Haley Selarnick, LMFT

Guide and premarital counselor; ask me about what recipe I'm making this week!

Stephanie Wray LMHC, ATR-BC, EXAT

Guide and premarital counselor; ask me about my passion for expressive arts

Top FAQs

A life changing experience, including:

Two 45 minute private sessions with a Guide.

Four 60 minute guided sessions via our Loveware.

A personalized roadmap catered to your relationship and goals.

Nearly unlimited questions, surprises, and more throughout the experience.

No problem - nearly half of our couples aren’t engaged (they're either dating or already married). OURS is for relationships of all kinds – new connections, serious relationships, recently engaged, the married crowd and everything in between. As long as you're looking to proactively invest in your relationship, you’ll fit right in.

We work with the best relationship experts we know and our Guides are no exception. They’ve all been especially handpicked for their compassion, enthusiasm, and trailblazing relationship approach.

Each Guide has, at the very least, a Master's degree in some form of Therapy, Mental Health, or Counseling (e.g., a Master's of Marriage and Family Therapy, a Master's of Psychology, etc.). Highly qualified and personally vetted, think of them as your personal cheerleader who will be there for you, at every step of your journey to answer your questions, give advice, and integrate your learnings. They uniquely tailor your experience to ensure you’re getting the most out of what you’re looking for.

The OURS program is not couples therapy. The OURS program is a psycho-educational experience that will support you to connect with your partner, understand and build skills, and create plans for the future. Whereas, couples therapy is typically longer term and a more diagnostic experience that focuses on healing past traumas (inside and outside of the relationship) and issues to change destructive, often unconscious habits, overcoming betrayals and deep pain within the relationship and navigating conflict resulting from painful feelings. Couples therapy might also be used in conjunction to individual therapy for the treatment of a mental health diagnosis or concern.

While we aren't offering couples therapy at the moment, we do believe in it very strongly!

3 steps...

Apply to get in. Answer a few confidential questions to see if you’re a good fit for the premarital counseling program. Most OURS couples are proactive, looking for insight into their relationship, and excited to talk about something new.

Meet your Guide. If you’re a good match, we’ll reach out and introduce you to your Guide, a world-class expert who will be the center of your OURS journey. They will schedule a fun exploratory call to hear about where you’ve been as a couple and what you want in your relationship. Then your Guide will take what they've learned to map out how we can help you get there.

Start the OURS experience. The adventure begins. Through our research-backed proprietary program, we build a personalized experience for you and your partner to explore the big stuff together. You’ll use our special, relationship-building ‘loveware’ tech to navigate guided exercises, bespoke discussion prompts, and so much more.

It’s important for OURS to give you a truly special experience, and it takes a high level of personalization and unique human touch to do just that. While most couples can benefit from the program, we’re self-aware enough to admit that it’s not right for all life stages and that we only want to take on as much as we can handle without compromising on quality. Because of that, we’re not in the business of taking your money unless we believe it’ll be a mutually good match for us both.

You should anticipate completing the entire experience in 4 weeks. However, this doesn't mean that you need to sign up immediately after purchasing - you can book your first session up to 30 days in the future, so there’s no rush.

Truthfully, we know there’s never a right or wrong time to start something new. We also know that your relationship matters and it’s important to prioritize it, especially during the times when life gets in the way. That’s why it is important for us to personally tailor the experience to your relationship, your goals, and your busy schedule.

You’re going to have to trust us on this one. Behind the scenes, we’re working our magic to match you to the right Guide based on your requirements, our in-house data, and good old-fashioned intuition! But if you have any non-negotiables (e.g., experience with long-distance couples, a particular ethnic background) then we’ll make it happen.

Fewer than you'd expect! If you're one of the special few that do, make sure to email us here with SECRET10 in the subject line and we'll give you a little something special.

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Unfortunately, we are unable to take insurance at this time.